Falling in love is easy; anyone can fall in love at any time. What is hard is staying in love. Most people tend to ‘relax’ once they have gotten the girl they were chasing, married the man of their dreams, they forgot that the love that drew them together needs to be serviced if it is to last.
Once you get into a relationship or get married, the work doesn’t end, the work just started. You have to keep showing your partner love in ways that transcends providing if you are the man and giving birth and keeping the house for the ladies. Doing these things are a given, it is already expected of you. Showing love in other little ways is what keeps the spark alive. Below we look at the little and sometimes overlooked ways you can show love to your partner and make them feel special.
Write them a note
Do you remember how it felt the last time someone wrote you a note? The feeling is out of this world. Cultivate the habit of writing your partner a love note. Leave it somewhere they would be sure to see it. Do it often enough and that person won’t doubt your love towards them. The best thing about this is you fall in love with them all over in seeing their reaction to the notes.
Get them their favourite things
If your partner likes a particular drink, go out of you way to always get it. The little things matter a lot. Your girlfriend likes to eat a particular snack? Get it for her as often as you can, your relationship will be better for it.
Remember to flirt
Remember the lines you used on her while you were trying to get her to go out with you? Use that on her from time to time. Don’t stop now just because you have ‘gotten’ her. Ladies, remember dressing up for your man? Keep that up as that is a way of flirting with him. This may seem little but it’s actually a great way to keep the spark alive. Couples that flirt with each other have more fulfilling lives in general and it keeps things more interesting in the bedroom.
Do something you don’t really want to do
Nothing tells your partner you love them like doing something you both know you do not like. If your partner wants to go to a particular event and it is not really up your alley, go anyway. You don’t like driving? Drive a little bit further to run an errand because your partner asked you to. The key here is to do it out of love and not moan and groan about it while doing it.
Listen to your lover
Listening to your partner is a virtue. Real listening, both to the things voiced out and the things not voiced out. Try to listen to the little requests he or she makes and grant them. Your wife says she doesn’t mind you coming in late from work but she would love a call to be informed before hand? Call her each time you are late. Your husband says he prefers his food hot? Make sure he has that each time. There’s nothing more important than making your partner feel special when you listen and act out on those requests.
Experience new things together
Couples who do things together that they have never done before get closer in the process because those new experiences release the hormone Oxycontin also known as “the cuddle hormone.” Go on a safari together if you can afford it. Try hiking for the first time together. Live a little outside the box together.
Cook their favourite meal
Everybody loves food. Prepare a special dish for your significant other out of the blues just because. This will be a very pleasant surprise. You can also order a favorite meal in, if it’s something he or she loves.
Build something together
It doesn’t have to be a house, it could be a new fruit tree in your house or starting a new business together. The closeness that can result from this experience will be worth it. Especially if you work well together; If you don’t, try harder at it while keeping it simple.
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Talk about your deepest feelings
Communication strengthens any relationship. Talking to your partner about your deepest feelings takes that a step further. When someone who truly loves you understands your losses, experiences your joys with you, it goes without saying that your bond will grow tighter.
Date Nights
Plan date nights together; if you are married with kids, date night means the kids are left at home. If you can afford it, make a night of it and check into a hotel after. Date nights go a long way to reaffirm love. If you are just dating, date nights should be a norm. Make it extra special by choosing a different place, asking your girlfriend to dress up for it.
If you are with the partner of your dreams and both of you love each other, doing these things will further strengthen you. You cannot go wrong with any of them.
